Wednesday, April 27, 2011

If you just relax, you will get pregnant.

"If only it were that easy! The fact is, the vast majority of individuals who have infertility have a medical reason, not a stress-related one. Upwards of 90% of all infertility cases are caused by physical problems. In the female partner, the major causes of infertility are absent or irregular ovulation, blocked fallopian tubes, abnormalities in the uterus, and endometriosis (a chronic painful condition where tissue from the lining of the uterus migrates into the pelvis and attaches to the reproductive organs). The male partner can have issues with sperm production which can lead to too few sperm, sperm which can’t swim correctly, and abnormally shaped sperm.

Where the stress/infertility connection may come in tends to be after one has been trying for a while, and the stress of not conceiving easily may then contribute to the problem. But there has never been a study which shows that simply relaxing increases pregnancy rates. Research does show that infertility patients who learn and practice a wide variety of stress reduction techniques can have higher pregnancy rates than patients who don’t learn those techniques."-From the website

Let me preface this by saying that I don't know that I have fertility issues but I do support the cause for awareness. 
I HATE when people tell me to relax or "it will happen when it happens", seriously, it makes me want to slap someone in the face. UGH. I've been trying to "let it happen" for a year now, and it hasn't.  I know they are just trying to be reassuring and I know that not many people understand how difficult it can be to get pregnant and what an emotional train wreck it can be.  But I can't help but feel angry about it.  Especially when I hear it from someone who got pregnant their first try or have beautiful and amazing children that they didn't even want to have.  And I feel terrible for women who actually have diseases that stop them from conceiving and have to listen to crap like that. "Relaxing" will not make any internal issues go away.  As amazing as that would be, it won't make a difference.
What CAN make a difference is your help to dispel the myths relating to infertility and your prayers.


  1. I love this!! After going through the infertility process for over a year now, it is beyond frustrating hearing "it will happen when you relax".

  2. Thank you for your kind words to me and for spreading the word.


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